Do you often feel like you can’t connect even though you’re face to face with someone?
You’re on one side; they are on the other.
You have something to share; they’re not open to receiving it.
You want to know; they aren’t telling.
Communicating--a fundamental element of relationships and survival--comes naturally, but it sure doesn't hurt when people think more about how they'll relate to one another before engaging. Even casual conversations have implications, and all kinds of nuances play a role in interactions. Unquestionably, the details influence whether parities not only cross paths, but also connect.
Consider the following examples of how different styles set the tone and potentially alter the dynamics between sides:
Peddle vs. Persuade
Peddle – To promote or sell
Persuade – To influence or motivate
Tell vs. Ask
Tell – To state or inform
Ask – To learn or inquire
Insist vs. Suggest
Insist – To require or maintain
Suggest – To advise or recommend
Ridicule vs. Respect
Ridicule – To mock or tease
Respect – To accept or recognize
Shout vs. Speak
Shout – To yell or call out
Speak – To communicate or express
Ignore vs. Listen
Ignore – To snub or discount
Listen – To hear or consider
Interrogate or Interview
Interrogate – To cross-examine or work over
Interview – To meet or consult
You might be reading and mentally tweaking my definitions or thinking of other distinctions. That’s great! My purpose is to encourage readers to reflect on the many angles available to gain and impart information in light of the potential consequences and opportunities.
Likewise, I don’t mean to infer that one approach is preferable or even appropriate for all situations. Personalities, protocols, and perceptions (among many other factors) are individualized, as are preferred outcomes. I will say, however, that genuine connections develop between the most unlikely pairs when both sides strive to seek common ground.
My best to you,
Sallie W. Boyles, a.k.a. Write Lady